Before I go into the methods for raising a rebel, let me share my heart on the matter. I absolutely believe in authority and Godly correction. I whole heartedly believe there is a big difference between proper spanking techniques and abuse. I also happen to believe that there is a sharp contrast between speaking with authority and screaming. One commands repect because it brings with it certain consequences while the latter usually involves hollow threats that amount to nothing. Well, just like with anything else, there is an appropriate and inappropriate way to approach our kids. We as parents, especially dads, have the propensity to push our children away. Not on purpose of course, but our unredeemed flesh seems to get in the way. Well, God has masterfully spelled out for us "how" and "how not to" deal with our kids in the above verse. Take some time to read it over and over. On the onset it sounds a bit vague but it's actually very deep. Only you as a parent knows what provokes your child.
How to Raise a Rebel:
1. Take their thoughts and ideas and marginalize them. Let them know how little their thoughts count.
2. Talk to them in a demeaning way.
3. Ridicule their dreams; never encourage them. What do they know?
4. Prove to them you are always on the authorites side and not theirs. (I am for authority by the way,
but my kids need to know that dad has their back in extreme cases......maybe an abuse of power by
the authorities, etc. It would be negligent of me to think that authorities are always pure and right.)
5. Correct them while the offense is still hot on your mind; don't wait till you cool off.
6. Consider them guilty until proven innocent.
7. Feelings ~ that's a bunch of Hooey. Kids don't have feelings or at least feelings that matter.
8. Ridicule them, especially if others or friends are around. That makes you look cool.
9. Prove your mental superiority by finding something wrong with any ideas they may have; especially if
they sound like they have a good point.
10. If you were treated wrong as a child, it is only right that they get the same treatment. Life's not fair is it.
11. Limit your praise and increase your criticisms. Tell them it's because you love them and are preparing
them for life.
12. Yelling at them will automatically command respect in their heart for you. Kids don't respect
self-controlled parents. They like the "shock and awe" affect.
13. Some say verbal abuse affects the child, but pay them no mind, what do they know? They are probably
raising weak, pansy kids.
14. Take no time getting to know their interests and definetly don't waste your time playing their silly games.
After all, you have important adult thing to do like watching tv, checking your email, or communicating
with old friends.
15. Never, ever admit you are wrong; that's a sign of weakness.
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